When a difficult emotion arises, name it. Say, "I am noticing a feeling of frustration." This creates a healthy distance between you and the emotion. 3. Identify Your "Cognitive Distortions"
When you have a negative thought, ask: "What evidence do I actually have that this is true?" 4. Challenge and Reframe Once you catch a distorted thought, give it a trial.
Write down the negative thought. Beneath it, write a more balanced, compassionate alternative. Original: "I messed up the presentation; I'm a failure."
Most of our suffering comes from reacting to thoughts as if they are facts.
Depression and anxiety often lead to withdrawal, which fuels the cycle.
Reframed: "I made a mistake on one slide, but the overall message was delivered well." 5. Behavioral Activation
A good self-therapist knows their limits. If you find yourself unable to function, experiencing thoughts of self-harm, or feeling "stuck" for weeks, it’s time to reach out to a licensed professional.